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My Gay Porn Fetish

November 13, 2009 By My Sex Diary 1 Comment

I was reading posts on SAVAGE LOVE(link:http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/SavageLove?oid=2708377) the other day when I came across a comment about X-TUBE (link: http://www.xtube.com). How did I not know about this site?! I thought I was a pretty informed person, but now I’m not so sure.

I’ve always had a thing against porn. Not because I think it’s immoral, unethical, or even degrading- not for any of the reasons the sexual atheists tout. No, I’ve had a thing against porn because it’s designed mainly for men. The women in porn tend to be hot, but the men? Half of them look like the creepy uncle that your parents warn you to stay away from at family functions. I mean, how many girls would sleep with THIS GUY (http://www.maxhardcore.com)? Seriously. Clearly created by men, for men.

There are a handful of good porn movies for women, but it’s a bit of a search to find them. Which is why X-TUBE is such a great site. You wouldn’t believe the amount of porn you kind find on this site. And most of it’s free! Plus, the porn features everyone from professionals to house wives. Lots of voyeurism to see, as well. Always refreshing to know that the people in the porn are getting off from me watching them. It makes things a little more satisfying, a little more interactive, in a way.

My favorite thing about X-TUBE, though, is all the gay porn. Not lesbian porn, but flaming, homosexual porn. Really, this fetish of mine is not as strange as you’d think. The hottest men in porn are the gay men. Very well-endowed, ripped bodies, and gorgeous looks. Plus, they actually groom down there. Nothing like watching a hairy man go at it with a smooth girl…. no thanks. I like my men the same way I like my women: shaved, waxed, smooth. Is that too much to ask?

The only thing I need to be careful about is not getting addicted to X-TUBE. I already have a small addiction with You Tube (come on, admit it, you spend hours watching all of those funny animal clips, too). So, I’m going to try to limit my X-TUBE viewing to once a week. Or twice. Okay, three times. That’s not so bad, right? Because where am I going to find men like that in real life? We all know that all the hot men are either dead, married, or… gay.

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Thinking About Sex

November 8, 2009 By My Sex Diary 1 Comment

How many times a day do men think about sex?

Estimates range from every seven minutes to every seven seconds. That’s a lot of sex to have on the brain. I mean, if it were every seven seconds, it would be more than 8,000 times a day. That’s a whole lot of time devoted to thinking about sex! Men must be incredible multi-taskers, thinking about sex while also studying for exams, taking care of their children, going to work, etc., etc. Amazing.

The question regarding how many times men think about sex has several origins, and most arose in order to explain men’s promiscuity versus women’s chastity. In other words, it was a way to justify men sleeping around while condemning women for the same behavior. It has even been used in court cases to let men off the hook for committing rape. Men just can’t help themselves. They’re “wired” to be promiscuous. It’s in their DNA.

Where is the data to support these claims? There have been several sex studies in the past six decades, from the controversial Kinsey Report that came out mid-century, to the updated and more thoroughly researched “Sexual Organization of Sexuality: Sexual Practices in the United States”.

Or from terrible, ignorant sources like this one from ABC. I, of course, think all of the surveys are complete bullshit and are, in a way, designed to maintain the belief that men are more sexual than women. If you examine the age, location, and situations of the people being surveyed, it’s easy to see why the statistics come out in favor of the men.

I’ve never met a man who can match my sex drive or who thinks about sex more than I do. I guess that makes me a slut. But if I was a man, I’m sure I’d get a pat on the back. Which is to say that when being surveyed, women are more likely to deflate their numbers while men are more likely to inflate them.

Either way, I can speak for myself and many of my friends when I say that women definitely spend a lot of time thinking about sex. And talking about sex. And dreaming about sex. And having… more sex. Men just aren’t aware of this because women are afraid to tell them about it.
And then there is the other side of the coin- the men who aren’t promiscuous, who don’t constantly have sex on the brain, but act like they do because they’re worried that if they don’t, they’ll appear like less of a “man”.

My experiences with hooking up are a case in point. I’m really just looking for a good lay. But most of the guys I want to hook up with, or have hooked up with, have gotten attached and want more than no strings attached sex. Even men who have claimed that they are bonafide players have ended up wanting a relationship. What gives?

My theory is that there really isn’t much difference between how much men think about/want sex and how much women do. We’ve all been mislead. And it causes us as a population to re-enact stereotypes that go against who we really are.

As for me, I’m into embracing how much I think about sex. Because I think about it all day long. When I wake up, when I have a shower, when I watch TV, when I walk down the street. Sex, sex, sex. And I’m proud of it.

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No Strings Attached

November 5, 2009 By My Sex Diary Leave a Comment

No Strings Attached

I’ve been waiting four days for this guy to call me. Now, I know what you’re thinking- that’s such a typical girl thing, right? Wrong. Because the guy is supposed to be a sex buddy, not a romantic prospect. And I’m supposed to be the kind of girl that every guy dreams of: hot, smart, funny, no drama, and only looking for no strings attached sex. LOTS of nsa sex.

Ah, but here’s the catch: I’m in an open-relationship. You’d think guys wouldn’t care about that. You think it would be an extra bonus because it means I’m not going to pressure them to commit. But it turns out that guys aren’t quite as emotionless as Hollywood movies make them out to be.

So, this guy (we’ll call him ‘D’) is someone I had amazing, toe curling, multiple orgasm sex with about 4 months ago. Then I left on a trip. Sporadic emailing led me to think that he wasn’t interested.

But I hear from him a few days after my return to San Francisco. He comes over, we hang out, he starts making out with me. Unfortunately, it was Halloween and we were both going to be late for separate parties, so we didn’t get much further than second base. Before he left he insisted he was interested and that he couldn’t wait to see me again. I think his words were (as he was grabbing my ass), “Lets get together soon. Call me. I can‘t wait!”

Well, we obviously have different ideas of what “soon” means, and it’s apparent that D most certainly can “wait”. I want sex every day. Aren’t there any hot guys who want the same??? My boyfriend is out of town for the next two weeks and you’d think that I could find a hot prospect. Instead, here I am, waiting for D to call. If I had known he was going to take this long, I would have gone out and found someone else!

Here’s what’s really frustrating me- I’ve called him. Three times. No response. So, when I say I’m interested in someone, I follow through. I don’t make them wait to hear from me, and I don’t not return their calls. Because if I am interested and I accidentally blow them off, they might tell me to take a hike instead of taking me back to their bedroom.

D borrowed my glue gun for his Halloween costume. So, my last call was about two things “Let’s hang out tomorrow night, and can I please have my glue gun back?”. I get… a text! And you know what it says? “I’m really busy, so I can’t hang out, but I can definitely make time to get your glue gun to you.”

He can make time to return a glue gun, but he can’t make time to please me?!!! What the hell is wrong with this guy? I mean, talk about misplaced priorities!

And then I get another text. He’s at the library. He’s not even a student! Hmm, go to a hot girl’s house and have great sex or go to the library? Which would you choose?

This story does not end well. It turns out that D changed his mind about having nsa sex. He wants to only sleep with a girl if it might turn into a relationship. Um, I feel like a role reversal has happened here. Aren’t girls supposed to be the emotional ones and guys the ones who just want to get laid? I’m beginning to think I’ve been mislead, and it makes me wonder, what does a girl have to do around here to get laid?

So, here I am, waiting for Mr. no-strings-attached.

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